House Parties by Wolframcpl

This Saturday Mr. Wolf and I are going to an annual Holiday party.  This may not necessarily be news, but the interesting thing about this particular party is that its just for Swingers.

Mr. Wolf and I have been lucky enough to make very good friends in the lifestyle.  We have a good group of friends that we’ve known for years and enjoy hanging out with (sometimes *GASP* we don’t even have SEX!).  This particular couple has hosted a holiday swinger party for a few years now, and Mr. Wolf and I have attended for three years now.

I would like to take the time to say at this juncture that my favorite LS parties have always been house parties.  I recognize that if you are new to Swingerland, its difficult to get an invite to these type events as usually the guest list includes people you have known for awhile or at least fucked once or twice.  So you may have to suffer through the public parties with loud music, expensive drinks, and, more times than not, fighting not to start getting it on before you can get back to the hotel room.

Also, for me, the large parties are just that, LARGE!  I have a pretty good case of social anxiety and throwing me in a room of 100 people where attractiveness and charm are highly-rated commodities puts me at an extreme disadvantage.  Even now, having been in the lifestyle for more than five years and, therefore, having met plenty of other swingers, I still retreat within myself, putting up the walls and exhibiting less than inviting body language.  More than one couple has written me off as a bitch or stuck up.  People who really know me always laugh when I talk about my social anxiety, because I’m comfortable with them and can be myself, which is actually rather loud and talkative.  Therefore, I get most excited by the prospect of a house party where there will be fewer guests and a high probability that I already know most of them.

Besides being a benefit for other head cases like me, house parties are MUCH better for actually getting to know someone.  No shouting over loud music, and the very fact that you are in a home, rather than in a public place, allows you to feel much more comfortable.  And the biggest benefit is, at least for me, that once you feel comfortable with someone, you’re already in a venue where you can get down and dirty!  (Bonus if you are an exhibitionist!)

If you’ve never been to a house party before and are now jonesing bad to be invited to one, start making friends with other swingers.  As I said, swingers typically invite people they have met and you increase your chances by getting to know people on this site.  But don’t just wait around for an invite-get the party started yourself!  Mr. Wolf and I have hosted house parties and had a GREAT time (besides the fact that I usually start singing Al Green…badly).  The largest issue to consider when planning a party is to think about how all those invited will get along.  Are there common interests, backgrounds, ages?

Of course, if you’ve been to a house party before, you know all the pleasures of attending a house party (and feel free to share all the juicy details in the comments below!).  However, if you haven’t ever been to a house party, you may want to keep these things in mind:

1.  Often the hosts have rules or requests of their guests.  These are often along the lines of “No Sex in Child’s Room” (or play in certain designated spaces) or “Please do not flush condoms.”  While its all about having a great time, this is still their home and treat it with respect.  No matter how silly the rule may seem to you, you need to follow it, or else you will not be invited back to their house or anyone else’s for that matter.

2.  It is generally bad swinger etiquette to join in when not invited.  If a girl is getting fucked from behind on the floor in the living room, its considered bad manners to stick your cock in her mouth.  As silly as it seems for me to have to say this out loud, I’ve seen it happen, and the fall out wasn’t pretty.

3.  Generally, if a door is shut to a room, it means no additional players are needed, nor do they want to be watched.  Please don’t open the door.  If, however, the door IS open, it COULD mean they want others involved OR they just want to be watched.  If you would like to join in but don’t know if they are interested, ask.  Swingers are a blunt bunch and they’ll tell you if you are wanted or not.  (and don’t be hurt if you AREN’T wanted, it’s nothing personal, just not what they want at that particular time).

4.  Don’t assume that the host will have your beverage/condom/toy/toiletries of choice on hand.  Bring all of your own items.  The hosts are simply providing the venue.  Of course, many wonderful hosts go above and beyond and I’ve seen lavish gourmet spreads with bowls of condoms overflowing and plush towels and toiletries at the ready, but this is not to be expected-prepare accordingly.

5.  When in doubt, ask!  This goes for house parties, public parties, or when meeting a someone/a couple for drinks.  Communication is KEY in Swingerland (and in life, but that blog post is for another day).  If you are uncomfortable with a situation or see something you don’t understand, talk to someone about it.  Swinging is supposed to be fun but it can only be a positive experience when you feel comfortable.  And if you haven’t guessed by now, swingers are a rather open bunch of people!

So I’m looking forward to heading to the holiday swinger party this weekend, especially to show off my new Snow Bunny costume!  I’ve told several people about it and I think they are as excited as I am!

For those of you that have hosted a house party before, what other things would you add to my list for “newbies” or even things that “veterans” need to be reminded about?  And more importantly, who’s got some really yummy stories?

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