1. Pamper yourselves with a couples massage at a day spa. “It’s a relaxing, sensual experience that can put you in an amorous mood. Then, try out some of the tricks you learned at home, using massage oils, of course.
2. Experiment with sensual foods. Chocolate, bananas, strawberries each have aphrodisiac tendencies. Introduce these into your playtime for sweet seduction.
3. Surprise your sweetheart with his or her favorite morning meal in bed on Valentine’s Day. Of course, serving/enjoying it in lingerie would make it that much better.
4. For the ultimate sexy gift, use your creative juices to put together a bag of treats for your man – not candy treats, but the adult kind. Buy a heart-shaped bag or basket and fill it up with toys and tricks you know he will like.
5. Forget slaving over a hot stove! Bring home a prepared meal from a place like My Girlfriend’s Kitchen, get dolled up and/or suit and enjoy a romantic evening together by candlelight. Don’t forget the soft music to sweep her off her feet. It’s sure to be one of your most memorable dates!
6. If staying doesn’t do it for you, nothing works better than a romantic trip for two (or more). As opposed to staying at an impersonal hotel, a weekend at a bed and breakfast shows you really care, and the included breakfast meal means you can spend even more quality time together. For a wide selection of bed and breakfast inns all over the country, check out bbonline.com.
7. The perfect gift!!!! She wears them…. He controls them! Vibrating panties, like these from Booty Parlor, should make for some naughty fun in, or out, of the house! 
8. If you’re entertaining more than just your significant other on V-day you may want to suggest a Lifestyle-friendly game of Spin the Bottle! This requires a little bit of preparation, but will be worth every second. Using a glass bottle, cut long slivers of paper that will fit in the bottle, but that can be tipped out easily, write steamy actions on each and put them in the bottle. As each person takes a turn, they will spin the bottle, remove a “task” and perform it on the lucky guy or gal that it lands on!
9. Do you have a talent for writing? Write your darling an erotic story and read it to them, slowly…. allowing each tantalizing detail to linger. Turn up the heat by acting out each scene. Can you get through the whole story?!
10. Celebrate the Day of Love with you favorite local swingers! Organize an intimate meet and greet or romantic double date! If you’re looking to turn up the heat a little check out a lifestyle party or club to meet new local swingers.

Mr. Wolf and I have been lucky enough to make very good friends in the lifestyle.  We have a good group of friends that we’ve known for years and enjoy hanging out with (sometimes *GASP* we don’t even have SEX!).  This particular couple has hosted a holiday swinger party for a few years now, and Mr. Wolf and I have attended for three years now.

I would like to take the time to say at this juncture that my favorite LS parties have always been house parties.  I recognize that if you are new to Swingerland, its difficult to get an invite to these type events as usually the guest list includes people you have known for awhile or at least fucked once or twice.  So you may have to suffer through the public parties with loud music, expensive drinks, and, more times than not, fighting not to start getting it on before you can get back to the hotel room.

Also, for me, the large parties are just that, LARGE!  I have a pretty good case of social anxiety and throwing me in a room of 100 people where attractiveness and charm are highly-rated commodities puts me at an extreme disadvantage.  Even now, having been in the lifestyle for more than five years and, therefore, having met plenty of other swingers, I still retreat within myself, putting up the walls and exhibiting less than inviting body language.  More than one couple has written me off as a bitch or stuck up.  People who really know me always laugh when I talk about my social anxiety, because I’m comfortable with them and can be myself, which is actually rather loud and talkative.  Therefore, I get most excited by the prospect of a house party where there will be fewer guests and a high probability that I already know most of them.

Besides being a benefit for other head cases like me, house parties are MUCH better for actually getting to know someone.  No shouting over loud music, and the very fact that you are in a home, rather than in a public place, allows you to feel much more comfortable.  And the biggest benefit is, at least for me, that once you feel comfortable with someone, you’re already in a venue where you can get down and dirty!  (Bonus if you are an exhibitionist!)

If you’ve never been to a house party before and are now jonesing bad to be invited to one, start making friends with other swingers.  As I said, swingers typically invite people they have met and you increase your chances by getting to know people on this site.  But don’t just wait around for an invite-get the party started yourself!  Mr. Wolf and I have hosted house parties and had a GREAT time (besides the fact that I usually start singing Al Green…badly).  The largest issue to consider when planning a party is to think about how all those invited will get along.  Are there common interests, backgrounds, ages?

Of course, if you’ve been to a house party before, you know all the pleasures of attending a house party (and feel free to share all the juicy details in the comments below!).  However, if you haven’t ever been to a house party, you may want to keep these things in mind:

1.  Often the hosts have rules or requests of their guests.  These are often along the lines of “No Sex in Child’s Room” (or play in certain designated spaces) or “Please do not flush condoms.”  While its all about having a great time, this is still their home and treat it with respect.  No matter how silly the rule may seem to you, you need to follow it, or else you will not be invited back to their house or anyone else’s for that matter.

2.  It is generally bad swinger etiquette to join in when not invited.  If a girl is getting fucked from behind on the floor in the living room, its considered bad manners to stick your cock in her mouth.  As silly as it seems for me to have to say this out loud, I’ve seen it happen, and the fall out wasn’t pretty.

3.  Generally, if a door is shut to a room, it means no additional players are needed, nor do they want to be watched.  Please don’t open the door.  If, however, the door IS open, it COULD mean they want others involved OR they just want to be watched.  If you would like to join in but don’t know if they are interested, ask.  Swingers are a blunt bunch and they’ll tell you if you are wanted or not.  (and don’t be hurt if you AREN’T wanted, it’s nothing personal, just not what they want at that particular time).

4.  Don’t assume that the host will have your beverage/condom/toy/toiletries of choice on hand.  Bring all of your own items.  The hosts are simply providing the venue.  Of course, many wonderful hosts go above and beyond and I’ve seen lavish gourmet spreads with bowls of condoms overflowing and plush towels and toiletries at the ready, but this is not to be expected-prepare accordingly.

5.  When in doubt, ask!  This goes for house parties, public parties, or when meeting a someone/a couple for drinks.  Communication is KEY in Swingerland (and in life, but that blog post is for another day).  If you are uncomfortable with a situation or see something you don’t understand, talk to someone about it.  Swinging is supposed to be fun but it can only be a positive experience when you feel comfortable.  And if you haven’t guessed by now, swingers are a rather open bunch of people!

So I’m looking forward to heading to the holiday swinger party this weekend, especially to show off my new Snow Bunny costume!  I’ve told several people about it and I think they are as excited as I am!

For those of you that have hosted a house party before, what other things would you add to my list for “newbies” or even things that “veterans” need to be reminded about?  And more importantly, who’s got some really yummy stories?

I was searching the internet to see if anyone has already attempted to spice up the holiday. Besides turkey basters the one thing I could find was an amazing turkey recipe. This recipe is guaranteed to bring a smile to your face and to the faces of your guests.

1. Cut out aluminum foil in the shape of a swimsuit.
2. “Dress” the turkey and roast like you would a normal turkey.
3. Bake turkey as you would with your favorite recipe.

The aluminum swimsuit prevents tan lines.

Unfortunately this turkey may not be entirely okay to have around grandma, though grandpa will love it. Hopefully if you can’t make it yourself you can at least get a laugh. Make sure to leave a comment below about what you are thankful for this year!

If you do make one, send us the pictures to post in a future blog post.

At the same time we also added a place for you to search for a Swingers Club in your area. If you know of a club that is not on the list, please let us know and we will make sure we get our list updated posthaste. We would not want to leave anyone out.

Truth or Dare You will need a deck of cards, paper, pens and a bowl or hat.  Everyone in the group has to write out a dare and put it in the hat.  Then one card gets handed out to each person and the one with the highest card gets to ask the one with the lowest card a truth question about something sexual i.e. what is your fantasy.  If they choose not to answer it they have to take a dare out of the hat.  The dares can be simply to kiss the person next to you or it could be something more daring like have sex with someone there and then.

Spin the Bottle I’m sure we have all played this at one time or other in our lives and it is still one of the best party games around.  Get one person to spin the bottle to start the game, when it stops and points at someone, they have to perform a dare, these can be removing items of clothing, kissing the person next to them or performing sexual favors.  Putting dares in a hat prior to the game beginning would be a good idea then the dares are varied and can be very funny.

Strip Twister All you need is a Twister game mat and lots of willing swingers. The rules are simple, play as you would normally play, whoever falls has to remove an article of clothing.  Play continues until all players are naked.  As clothing is removed more body contact will occur and what follows is something you can imagine for yourself.

Name That Body Part This is a game where women are blindfolded and have to guess which penis belongs to their partner.  For a more intense version make them guess using only their mouth.  Of course the inverse of this game is the husbands identifying the females.

Another fun find is The Game! I have not yet tried this, but will have it on order by the end of this article. A multi-tiered sensual, provocative board game designed by swingers, for swingers. You can find this game online at http://blackboxgame.com/what-is-the-game.html

Have some fresh, original ideas for swinger party games and icebreakers? Do you have a sizzlin’ story to tell about your playtime!?! Let us know!

Happy Swingin’!

This is an extremely delicate matter, so it’s best to approach your wife by putting yourself in her shoes.  Go into the conversation hoping to succeed in your efforts, but do not get upset or frustrated at your woman if she is not interested right away. Opening her mind to the idea of swinging is the first step in the process. Once she’s had a chance to think on it she’ll likely come to you with questions and intrigue. If this is not the outcome of your conversation be prepared for her to wonder if you will be unfaithful. Understanding what swinging really means may set her mind, and heart, at ease from this concern. Swinging promotes monogamy in the love between both partners, but opens the sexual activity up to others outside the relationship.

There are many ways swinging can enhance and improve a relationship, but first you must evaluate if your relationship is strong enough already to support being in the lifestyle. Swinging is not a fix for a bad relationship and will in fact destroy it. So be aware of the pros and cons of introducing swinging into your relationship.

PRO: Swinging can bring a couple closer together. Swinging involves a high degree of communication between both partners. You should constantly be checking in with each other and staying connected. Every experience is different and comfort levels can wax and wane. Stay involved in your partner’s activities (even when not physically involved). Make certain she is enjoying herself and has control of the situation.

CON: Swinging involves a high degree of communication. If you and your wife are not already use to communicating this much, swinging will pose an issue for you. Forcing involvement can make her feel smothered and as though you are trying to control her. This type of connection must be natural and flow effortlessly.

PRO: You may notice your trust and honesty reach new levels, rediscover why you fell in love with each other and find a greater sense of pleasure in the bedroom.

CON: In the beginning there may be jealousy issues to overcome. This can be tough for anyone, but remember to continue communicating, and always be considerate and understanding if your wife feels this way. In your own ways, reassure her fears and take things slowly. Let her take the lead, and dictate the speed at which you proceed.

PRO: You may discover new sexual experiences and techniques that you both can use in your own bedroom. Opening your sexual activity up to other people will certainly introduce you to new ideas and techniques you’ve never experienced before. This is an opportunity for you to find new and exciting ways of pleasuring each other during your own playtime.

CON: You may discover you are not as interested in swinging as you’d originally thought, but your wife is! The lifestyle is such that women are truly in control of the whole ballgame. Generally, women have the final say on whom you play with, when you play and what you do with your playmates. So be careful what you wish for!

Make sure this process is a give and take. Discuss openly your desires and interests and find out if she has any unfulfilled fantasies. Agree to satisfy her sexual curiosities in exchange, and that it would be your pleasure to do so. Be open-minded! If she is willing to open up to you then be supportive, not judgmental. Consider that what you’re asking her for may be a bit out of her comfort zone just as her fantasies may be outside of yours.

Setting rules and boundaries is imperative for all swingers. Determine prior to any activity what you are both interested in, what potential playmates you may be looking for and how you’d like to find and meet other swingers.

There are many ways to find and meet other swingers with similar interests. Swing publications have all but become a thing of the past, as swinger sites are becoming a popular choice for locating like-minded swingers. On Muah.com, you can set up a free profile and instantly begin searching through thousands of swingers based on niche criteria. Here you can also find local events and parties, chat with other members in the live video chat room and talk to other swingers that are always happy to share their stories or give advice to newbies. Local swing clubs or organizations are another great way to get involved in the lifestyle and meet other swingers. Most clubs will host private parties or events, however the price of admission may be steep for first-timers. Also consider the type of event as on-premise clubs and parties will involve sex on-site, albeit in a private or semi-private room. Ascertain whether or not your wife is ready for this because the initial shock could set her back. Predominantly, swinger parties are off-premise (no sex on-site) and are a wonder catalyst for socializing and meeting new friends. They are no-pressure, fun events and most swingers will tell you the social aspects of being in the lifestyle is equally as rewarding as the sexual pleasures.

Make sure she is involved in the search for potential playmates and in planning your “first date.” Nudge her to take the reigns and direct you to couples, or singles, she may be interested in. Introduce her to the scenario you are interested in by watching pornos together, perhaps of threesomes, gangbangs or group sex. This will get her initial shock of the unexpected out of the way, and it’s likely she’ll be able to visualize herself in a similar scenario. Another way of  “testing the waters” is to take a vacation to an adult resort, such as Desire or Hedonism. There you can both relax; sit frozen drinks and lay around in the sun (with little to no clothing) in a sexually charged environment. Here you have the potential for something to happen without the pressure or obligation….and hey, who couldn’t use a tropical vacation! Again, be sure she is 100% aware of what to expect!

However you and your wife decide to explore the lifestyle, always remember to keep your relationship first and foremost. She may not warm up to swinging all at one, so be patient with your wife, and don’t force the lifestyle. Half the fun is starting out and talking about your desires with each other, and if you find that swinging isn’t for you at least you’ve opened the door to other fantasies you can explore together.

Happy Swinging

All five of our interns have become well acclimated to the swinger lifestyle and hopefully they can help bring in some new young members.  We can only hope that next summer’s interns are half as good at the job. 

We hope you ladies enjoy your school year and good luck on your future endeavors.

Hugs kisses and probably more,
The entire Muah.com Staff

First he improved the latest forum and latest blog postings by combining them into the latest happenings.  The other important improvement is the Newest Members now displays photos.  I personally think this is a great idea.  Let’s me pick out the best looking new swingers. 

Onto the new features, which include our new buttons.  These Buttons seemed like a good idea to make important things prominent and easier to get to.  Of course the most important one is at the top because the chat room is where you can really get a party going.

The other, more important, new feature is the Featured Member.  The featured member will be updated on Wednesdays of every week.  If you are worried about not being chosen or you don’t want to be chosen, we do take things into consideration.  First and foremost we will never choose a member that has no photo.  Really what would be the point?  The other thing we look for is someone that is active.  We want someone that actually want to make an impact on our community to represent us.

For those wondering who chooses the featured member, it is a combination of our Marketing department and the S&P Board.  The S&P Board basically makes sure everything is tasteful, while the Marketing department tends to have an eye for flare.  From there the entire staff votes on the next featured member.

Anyway hope to see you all up there soon.