When flying keep in mind that TSA is going to x-ray your bags no matter what and when the contents of your carry-on are viewed on screen, your personal pleasure makers may appear to be something more threatening than they are. Exercise good judgment when packing and consider the potential for your sex toy to be mistaken for a weapon. While its purpose MAY be to bring a tit-ilizing bit of pain, you wouldn’t want airport security to deem your dong a deadly device.

Pack your batteries and liquids separately. Battery-powered objects may appear more menacing to an x-ray scanner. It’s ideal to pack fresh batteries still in their pack, and away from the toy itself. In-flight, liquids tend to explode or leak, so a Ziploc bag is the perfect storage container for your favorite lube or toy cleaner.

It is wise to approach security checkpoints expecting to have your luggage searched. Don’t panic or freak out and run the other way, bag in tow. Airport security has seen it all, and your sex toys will cause you to blush before the straight-faced security office. If your bag is selected as the special one to be searched just discreetly inform the officer about your sensitive items. Airport employees are trained to exercise discretion and your calm, collected cooperation will help avoid embarrassment to you both. A non-see-through pouch, to house your toy, will afford you more time to spill the beans, and keep your sexy secrets from lying right out there for the world to see.

When traveling with your full arsenal, keep in mind that all toys are not created equal, nor do they play well together. Package your silicone, rubber or latex toys separate from each other, and in a lint-free cloth or pouch.

No matter what, don’t get discouraged. Having your toys in tow ALWAYS makes for a better trip. Just remember to be smart and stay one step ahead of security so you and your playful pals survive the rigors of travel.

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Quality lubrication is a valuable component of great sex. Even if you don’t think you need lube, you’d be surprised at what it can do for your sex life. Using a high quality personal lubricant is the quickest, easiest and, usually, most effective solution for vaginal dryness and to increase condom performance. To enhance pleasure, simply dab a drop or two of lube on the tip of the penis before putting on the condom. Adding another touch to the outside of the condom will make both partners more comfortable and decreases the chance of breakage. Lube will help prolong your intimate sessions, and make masturbation more enjoyable. Not to mention, if you’re a part of the growing majority of couples experimenting with anal sex, it’s virtually a must.

Sexual lubricant is widely popular, but is a very personal choice and therefore comes in many different types. Most of these will fall into three main categories: water-based, silicone-based and oil-based. Each type has their pros and cons. For an added bonus, most manufacturers tweak their basic formulas to extend their product lines to offer flavored lubes and warming lubes.

For most situations, a basic water-based lube, such as Slick Willy, is by far the most popular choice. Water-based lubes like Slick Willy are water-soluble, their main advantage being that they are smooth and silky, not sticky and messy like silicone and oil-based lubes can be. Clean up is a breeze with just a little water, and some soap if you prefer. Depending on how long your sessions go, you may need to reapply, a minor set-back with this type of lube. For a long lasting, soft and silky water-based lube, I recommend Slick Willy, designed specifically for enhancing sex and masturbation.

Anal sex usually requires something a bit thicker, and sometimes a desensitizing lube which will include a numbing agent. Silicone-based lubricants take ages to dry out and will stay slippery until washed off with soap. This basically eliminates the need to reapply, a huge advantage if you’re looking for a shower-worthy lube. For some this is IT, but for others it may feel like having motor oil slathered on your privates.

Oil-based lubes, while a preference for some masturbators, come with a variety of warnings for use during sex. First, they will corrode latex, so use with a condom is not recommended. Secondly, oil-based lubes tend to stick around longer and can trap bacteria in orifices, increasing the risk of infection. When love making involves latex, it’s best to stick with a water-based lube, like Slick Willy, that’s made especially for enhancing sexual pleasure.

To make the most out of your sessions, experiment a little to find the one that works for you and your partner. To try Slick Willy water-based lubricant, visit www.SlickWilly.com. It’s long-lasting, silky smooth formula is as close to the real thing as it gets.

1. Pamper yourselves with a couples massage at a day spa. “It’s a relaxing, sensual experience that can put you in an amorous mood. Then, try out some of the tricks you learned at home, using massage oils, of course.
2. Experiment with sensual foods. Chocolate, bananas, strawberries each have aphrodisiac tendencies. Introduce these into your playtime for sweet seduction.
3. Surprise your sweetheart with his or her favorite morning meal in bed on Valentine’s Day. Of course, serving/enjoying it in lingerie would make it that much better.
4. For the ultimate sexy gift, use your creative juices to put together a bag of treats for your man – not candy treats, but the adult kind. Buy a heart-shaped bag or basket and fill it up with toys and tricks you know he will like.
5. Forget slaving over a hot stove! Bring home a prepared meal from a place like My Girlfriend’s Kitchen, get dolled up and/or suit and enjoy a romantic evening together by candlelight. Don’t forget the soft music to sweep her off her feet. It’s sure to be one of your most memorable dates!
6. If staying doesn’t do it for you, nothing works better than a romantic trip for two (or more). As opposed to staying at an impersonal hotel, a weekend at a bed and breakfast shows you really care, and the included breakfast meal means you can spend even more quality time together. For a wide selection of bed and breakfast inns all over the country, check out bbonline.com.
7. The perfect gift!!!! She wears them…. He controls them! Vibrating panties, like these from Booty Parlor, should make for some naughty fun in, or out, of the house! 
8. If you’re entertaining more than just your significant other on V-day you may want to suggest a Lifestyle-friendly game of Spin the Bottle! This requires a little bit of preparation, but will be worth every second. Using a glass bottle, cut long slivers of paper that will fit in the bottle, but that can be tipped out easily, write steamy actions on each and put them in the bottle. As each person takes a turn, they will spin the bottle, remove a “task” and perform it on the lucky guy or gal that it lands on!
9. Do you have a talent for writing? Write your darling an erotic story and read it to them, slowly…. allowing each tantalizing detail to linger. Turn up the heat by acting out each scene. Can you get through the whole story?!
10. Celebrate the Day of Love with you favorite local swingers! Organize an intimate meet and greet or romantic double date! If you’re looking to turn up the heat a little check out a lifestyle party or club to meet new local swingers.

Mr. Wolf and I have been lucky enough to make very good friends in the lifestyle.  We have a good group of friends that we’ve known for years and enjoy hanging out with (sometimes *GASP* we don’t even have SEX!).  This particular couple has hosted a holiday swinger party for a few years now, and Mr. Wolf and I have attended for three years now.

I would like to take the time to say at this juncture that my favorite LS parties have always been house parties.  I recognize that if you are new to Swingerland, its difficult to get an invite to these type events as usually the guest list includes people you have known for awhile or at least fucked once or twice.  So you may have to suffer through the public parties with loud music, expensive drinks, and, more times than not, fighting not to start getting it on before you can get back to the hotel room.

Also, for me, the large parties are just that, LARGE!  I have a pretty good case of social anxiety and throwing me in a room of 100 people where attractiveness and charm are highly-rated commodities puts me at an extreme disadvantage.  Even now, having been in the lifestyle for more than five years and, therefore, having met plenty of other swingers, I still retreat within myself, putting up the walls and exhibiting less than inviting body language.  More than one couple has written me off as a bitch or stuck up.  People who really know me always laugh when I talk about my social anxiety, because I’m comfortable with them and can be myself, which is actually rather loud and talkative.  Therefore, I get most excited by the prospect of a house party where there will be fewer guests and a high probability that I already know most of them.

Besides being a benefit for other head cases like me, house parties are MUCH better for actually getting to know someone.  No shouting over loud music, and the very fact that you are in a home, rather than in a public place, allows you to feel much more comfortable.  And the biggest benefit is, at least for me, that once you feel comfortable with someone, you’re already in a venue where you can get down and dirty!  (Bonus if you are an exhibitionist!)

If you’ve never been to a house party before and are now jonesing bad to be invited to one, start making friends with other swingers.  As I said, swingers typically invite people they have met and you increase your chances by getting to know people on this site.  But don’t just wait around for an invite-get the party started yourself!  Mr. Wolf and I have hosted house parties and had a GREAT time (besides the fact that I usually start singing Al Green…badly).  The largest issue to consider when planning a party is to think about how all those invited will get along.  Are there common interests, backgrounds, ages?

Of course, if you’ve been to a house party before, you know all the pleasures of attending a house party (and feel free to share all the juicy details in the comments below!).  However, if you haven’t ever been to a house party, you may want to keep these things in mind:

1.  Often the hosts have rules or requests of their guests.  These are often along the lines of “No Sex in Child’s Room” (or play in certain designated spaces) or “Please do not flush condoms.”  While its all about having a great time, this is still their home and treat it with respect.  No matter how silly the rule may seem to you, you need to follow it, or else you will not be invited back to their house or anyone else’s for that matter.

2.  It is generally bad swinger etiquette to join in when not invited.  If a girl is getting fucked from behind on the floor in the living room, its considered bad manners to stick your cock in her mouth.  As silly as it seems for me to have to say this out loud, I’ve seen it happen, and the fall out wasn’t pretty.

3.  Generally, if a door is shut to a room, it means no additional players are needed, nor do they want to be watched.  Please don’t open the door.  If, however, the door IS open, it COULD mean they want others involved OR they just want to be watched.  If you would like to join in but don’t know if they are interested, ask.  Swingers are a blunt bunch and they’ll tell you if you are wanted or not.  (and don’t be hurt if you AREN’T wanted, it’s nothing personal, just not what they want at that particular time).

4.  Don’t assume that the host will have your beverage/condom/toy/toiletries of choice on hand.  Bring all of your own items.  The hosts are simply providing the venue.  Of course, many wonderful hosts go above and beyond and I’ve seen lavish gourmet spreads with bowls of condoms overflowing and plush towels and toiletries at the ready, but this is not to be expected-prepare accordingly.

5.  When in doubt, ask!  This goes for house parties, public parties, or when meeting a someone/a couple for drinks.  Communication is KEY in Swingerland (and in life, but that blog post is for another day).  If you are uncomfortable with a situation or see something you don’t understand, talk to someone about it.  Swinging is supposed to be fun but it can only be a positive experience when you feel comfortable.  And if you haven’t guessed by now, swingers are a rather open bunch of people!

So I’m looking forward to heading to the holiday swinger party this weekend, especially to show off my new Snow Bunny costume!  I’ve told several people about it and I think they are as excited as I am!

For those of you that have hosted a house party before, what other things would you add to my list for “newbies” or even things that “veterans” need to be reminded about?  And more importantly, who’s got some really yummy stories?

I was searching the internet to see if anyone has already attempted to spice up the holiday. Besides turkey basters the one thing I could find was an amazing turkey recipe. This recipe is guaranteed to bring a smile to your face and to the faces of your guests.

1. Cut out aluminum foil in the shape of a swimsuit.
2. “Dress” the turkey and roast like you would a normal turkey.
3. Bake turkey as you would with your favorite recipe.

The aluminum swimsuit prevents tan lines.

Unfortunately this turkey may not be entirely okay to have around grandma, though grandpa will love it. Hopefully if you can’t make it yourself you can at least get a laugh. Make sure to leave a comment below about what you are thankful for this year!

If you do make one, send us the pictures to post in a future blog post.

At the same time we also added a place for you to search for a Swingers Club in your area. If you know of a club that is not on the list, please let us know and we will make sure we get our list updated posthaste. We would not want to leave anyone out.

Truth or Dare You will need a deck of cards, paper, pens and a bowl or hat.  Everyone in the group has to write out a dare and put it in the hat.  Then one card gets handed out to each person and the one with the highest card gets to ask the one with the lowest card a truth question about something sexual i.e. what is your fantasy.  If they choose not to answer it they have to take a dare out of the hat.  The dares can be simply to kiss the person next to you or it could be something more daring like have sex with someone there and then.

Spin the Bottle I’m sure we have all played this at one time or other in our lives and it is still one of the best party games around.  Get one person to spin the bottle to start the game, when it stops and points at someone, they have to perform a dare, these can be removing items of clothing, kissing the person next to them or performing sexual favors.  Putting dares in a hat prior to the game beginning would be a good idea then the dares are varied and can be very funny.

Strip Twister All you need is a Twister game mat and lots of willing swingers. The rules are simple, play as you would normally play, whoever falls has to remove an article of clothing.  Play continues until all players are naked.  As clothing is removed more body contact will occur and what follows is something you can imagine for yourself.

Name That Body Part This is a game where women are blindfolded and have to guess which penis belongs to their partner.  For a more intense version make them guess using only their mouth.  Of course the inverse of this game is the husbands identifying the females.

Another fun find is The Game! I have not yet tried this, but will have it on order by the end of this article. A multi-tiered sensual, provocative board game designed by swingers, for swingers. You can find this game online at http://blackboxgame.com/what-is-the-game.html

Have some fresh, original ideas for swinger party games and icebreakers? Do you have a sizzlin’ story to tell about your playtime!?! Let us know!

Happy Swingin’!